Written by Dennis Harvell
Forgiveness
Forgiveness has nothing to do with the other person. You’re not forgiving them so they can heal. You’re forgiving them so you can stop carrying the weight of a conversation they were never capable of hearing.
Forgiveness is reclaiming the sovereignty of your own mind. It’s refusing to let resentment keep you stuck, gripping a red‑hot coal that only burns you.
It doesn’t mean you’re excusing what happened or abandoning boundaries. It means you’re choosing not to live from anger anymore. Because when you act from anger, nothing gets better — you only deepen the wound.
Some people don’t deserve forgiveness. They’ll never earn it. But forgiveness isn’t about what they deserve. It’s about allowing yourself to be okay.
So even in pain, I choose to forgive — not for them, but for me.